All I've thought about all week is my date last weekend. I hope I'm not getting my hopes up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared of getting hurt, but we are all in the same boat. Unless I'm willing to give it a go, I'll never find out. I have been talking to my guy on the phone this week. I feel more comfortable doing that since meeting him. I have still been checking my messages on the website, but I admit I haven't sent any. I feel bad as I have some messages which need replying to but I don't know what to say. My guy and I have talked about meeting again, so I'd feel bad sending a message to another guy. I also feel bad for not replying to messages in my inbox. Do I send a message saying I have met someone, or is it too soon to say and carry on chatting to others like normal?
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Well, I went on the big date at the weekend! It took me hours to get ready for it, which is not like me as usually I'm ready in minutes. I wore my new outfit of smart jeans with a warm fancy top and a smart little jacket and new boots. I couldn't believe how nervous I was. Thank goodness my friend and her man came along to calm me down. I waited for my date in a local bar with my friend and luckily it wasn't too busy. I made sure I sat where I got a good view of the door, but all that seemed to do was make me jump every time the door opened. I was worried I wouldn't recognise my date from his picture as he said he had had his hair cut recently. I only had a soft drink, just in case an alcoholic one went straight to my head before my date had even arrived. My friend and her bloke really tried to make me laugh and take my mind off things, but it didn't really work. I haven't felt that nervous for a long time. When my bloke arrived, only a few minutes late, I recognised him straight away thank goodness. He looked a little different from his picture, but I think people usually do. My initial feeling was that I did really like him. He was so sweet as he had some flowers for me. I didn't know whether to go over to him or wait for him to come to me, but I got up to introduce myself properly. We only stayed for one drink in the bar and then we went for a pizza. I found it quite easy to talk to him luckily, I can't recall any moments of silence. My friend and her bloke were brilliant. The two blokes seemed to hit it off well and my friend seemed to like my date too! For some reason I started to worry about my date seeing me eat the pizza! By the time we got to the pizza place I was starving. I hope my date didn't hear my tummy rumble. I hardly ate much that day as I was so nervous. I'm not a messy eater but I was really dreading eating in case I dropped food all down my clothes. I made sure I took my time and luckily there were no spills and the pizza was lovely!!! After the pizza we raced to the bowling alley. We had booked two games. My date was brilliant at bowling, I wasn't. He tried giving me advice but I still wasn't that great. I love bowling and have been loads of times, but it's just not my thing I guess. I was pleased as I managed to bet a higher score than my friend! The bowling went really quickly, I had a fantastic time. By the time we finished bowling it was quite late. Saying goodbye was a little awkward as my friends were there. They couldn't leave as I was getting a lift with them, plus I didn't really want them to leave. They just stood a little away from us to let us say goodbye. My date said he would like to see me again, which I am over the moon about. He seemed to have a great time and has told me since that he did. I can't believe my first date is over. It went so well, I don't know why I was so worried about it. I just hope the next one goes as well as this one!
Today I went shopping with my friends and got an outfit for my date. I've gone for the casual look, but classy. I must have looked like an idiot in the changing room at the shops as every outfit I tried on had to pass the pretend bowling test. The last thing I want is to wear an outfit that moves about when I'm bowling, I don't want half of my bum hanging out or a restricting top. I can't believe the date is this weekend!!! When I joined this site I never ever thought I'd actually meet up with someone. I truly thought I'd only end up chatting to a few people. I hope this gives hope to those out there who aren't having as much joy as me.
Today I heard back from the guy who isn't usually my type. I really enjoyed chatting to him. He made me laugh and feel really good. The guy I am meeting up with also makes me feel good, but in a different way. Now I feel really bad about the guy I'm meeting up with. It seems to be the nearer the date is, the more I feel I am cheating on him by chatting to others. Think I need to sit back and remember I've not met any of the guys and I'm not anyone's girlfriend, so I'm not doing anything wrong. My friends keep telling me I'm not doing anything wrong and I'm meant to be having fun, but I seem to keep forgetting that part.
I was chatting again to the hot guy today. I'm still not too sure about him. He does seem nice, but I don't feel much of a connection between us. I don't know whether to stop sending him messages now, before it goes any further. Maybe I'm being too hasty, we haven't been messaging each other for all that long, so I might just see what happens.
I did something unusual for me today. I replied to a contact request from someone who I wouldn't usually be attracted to. I tend to go for a particular look in a bloke, well so my friends have pointed out to me, and this guy was nothing like my usual type. His picture just caught my eye and I looked at it for ages. He seems a nice guy and has similar interests to me. I thought I've nothing to loose, although I do feel a little weird seeing as I'm meeting up with someone else soon. I'll just have to wait and see if I hear from him again.
It's not all that long now until my date! We have been chatting online every day lately. I hope I don't run out of things to ask him! He is fine with the quiet pub, food then bowling I suggested. He says he's very good at bowling and will teach me as I'm not that great. He suggested going for a pizza, which I love. I just hope I don't drop food all down myself or get it all round my mouth. I'm going shopping this weekend with my friends to choose the perfect casual outfit. I'm great at clothes shopping, but not when I'm under pressure. I'm just a little concerned I'm getting my hopes up about this date, maybe I should try not to analyse it before it's even gone ahead.
I've been chatting to the hot guy for the first time today. Thought I'd be polite and chat to him. Like my friends say, I'm just keeping my options open. He seems really nice, but I don't always understand everything he writes, maybe he as a different sense of humour to me. I don't feel I've clicked with him. I do like him, but there is a "but". I'll see how it goes. Maybe it will just take a little longer to get to know this guy.
Finally I think I've got my date venue sorted!!! I was thinking of meeting my guy in a local quiet bar, then going for a light bite before going bowling. I'm planning on keeping the date casual. I'm not one for a formal date. That way I can get away with dressing casual, but in a new outfit! My friend and her bloke are going to be in the bar with me too. That way if he doesn't turn up or I really don't like him then they will be there for me, but hopefully that won't happen. I feel much happier knowing it is going to be a double date. Think I would have been more nervous if I had planned to meet him on my own.
I had a contact request from a really hot guy today. I don't know what to do. I feel I should reply, but then I start to feel guilty about cheating on my bloke I haven't met yet. I guess there is no harm in chatting to him. I'm still a little gutted I haven't heard from my second guy though. I really liked him, he really made me laugh. Maybe he's met someone else. Never mind, at least I never actually met up with him. I'd rather he'd just told me he didn't want to chat to me anymore as at least I'd have known one way or another. I guess he didn't have the guts to tell me. Oh well, it's his loss! I'll just put it down to experience.
